Signs someone may need support

Signs someone may need support, including changes in mood, behaviour, routine or connection, and encourages checking in when concerns persist.

On this page…

  • The ways people show that they need support.
  • How to look for ongoing and combined changes and check in when things feel different.
  • When you should check in.

Signs someone may need support

People respond differently when life becomes difficult. 

There is no single sign that tells you someone is struggling, but you may notice changes in their mood, behaviour, routine or connection with others. 

The most important thing to look for is a change from what is usual for that person. 

A single change may not mean anything is wrong. But several changes occurring together, becoming more noticeable or continuing over time may be a reason to check in. 

They might: 

  • seem more withdrawn or distant than usual 
  • stop spending time with friends, family or colleagues 
  • appear more irritable, angry or frustrated 
  • seem unusually tired or lacking energy 
  • lose interest in activities they normally enjoy 
  • have difficulty concentrating or making decisions 
  • seem overwhelmed by everyday tasks 
  • talk about feeling hopeless, stuck or under pressure 
  • drink more alcohol or use other substances more often 
  • take more risks or act out of character 

Sometimes people will talk openly about what they are going through. Often, they won’t. 

Changes in behaviour, mood or routine

One of the most common signs that someone may be struggling is a noticeable change from what is normal for them. 

You might notice changes in their: 

Behaviour

  • Avoiding phone calls or messages 
  • Pulling away from social activities 
  • Becoming unusually quiet 
  • Losing motivation 
  • Having more conflict with others 

Mood

  • Seeming sad or flat 
  • Becoming easily frustrated or angry 
  • Appearing anxious or worried 
  • Having noticeable mood swings 
  • Seeming emotionally overwhelmed 

Daily routine

  • Changes in sleep patterns 
  • Changes in appetite 
  • Arriving late or missing commitments 
  • Neglecting tasks that were once important to them 
  • Finding it harder to manage everyday responsibilities 

A single change doesn’t always mean someone is struggling. However, when several changes happen together or continue for some time, it may be worth checking in. 

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